Carbon Copies or Xerox Copies- our saviors during the school and college times where the machine would just reproduce how many ever copies of the original material. Indeed a wonderful invention which has made life of so many individuals so much easier.
But the mistake we often commit is- expecting machines to behave like human beings and human beings to behave like machines! We expect the xerox machine to understand our choice of copy each time we need a photocopy and expect our fellow human beings to behave in a particular fixed format each time we interact! That is still not a big mistake. The bigger mistake is expecting one copy to be identical to the other! How is that possible? This is one mistake which i have been trying very hard to get rid of, from the heads of parents of my beloved students.
Kids, from what i have witnessed and experienced in the last decade are all very special and unique. Each child interprets the projectile of the shuttle differently and each child questions the physics behind various drills in his/her own unique and interesting manner on the other hand, some just choose to follow what is being told and not question at all. The issue here is when parents enter the zone of children where they force the children to question what they probably would have questioned if the parents were the students or expect their wards to play or interpret the game like how their neighbor's son does!
Not many parents seem to be satisfied with what their kids are and how their kids want to be. Also, it is important to notice that the kids of the unhappy parents are surely not in the wrong path. How terribly wrong can a 5 or a 6 year could possibly be! In fact they most often would have chosen a very simple and non complicated path and that seems to be the biggest worry for the parents! Which is - "Why is my son not asking any questions??!!"
As a coach i encounter most of the parents asking me one common question- " When will my child start playing like her?" (Pointing at a kid who would be playing marginally better than their child)
Well educated and highly qualified parents most often forget that their child is special and born with different competencies which probably no other kid has! But alas, their kid is not like the kid standing beside in the school prayer assembly, how unfortunate...
Hats off to those parents who let their kids be the way they want to be and in the process retain the originality. And very unfortunate of those parents who expect their kids to be some other kid and spend their entire lives only telling them "look at her!" , "look at him!!" and directly or indirectly asking their child to be like the above him or her.
Comparison leaves a scar forever in the child's mind and drastically pulls the self confidence and morale of the child and end up spending the rest of their lives only to please their parents. This condition is mostly applicable to all the kids who are normal children, who largely outnumber the super talented kids.
--- Set personal and societal goals in a child's mind but not a goal which confines to only getting better grades than your cousin's son.
--- Inculcate habits which will enable your kid to lead a healthy life and not because your neighbor's daughter has the same habits.
--- Teach qualities which will help your child grow mentally but not qualities which will prove your child's classmate wrong.
Well the list can go on...
Let your child be normal and happy and do not expect them to be extraordinary and most importantly "carbon copies"
There is good old saying which says: "Do not limit your child to own learning, for the child was born at another time"
But the mistake we often commit is- expecting machines to behave like human beings and human beings to behave like machines! We expect the xerox machine to understand our choice of copy each time we need a photocopy and expect our fellow human beings to behave in a particular fixed format each time we interact! That is still not a big mistake. The bigger mistake is expecting one copy to be identical to the other! How is that possible? This is one mistake which i have been trying very hard to get rid of, from the heads of parents of my beloved students.
Kids, from what i have witnessed and experienced in the last decade are all very special and unique. Each child interprets the projectile of the shuttle differently and each child questions the physics behind various drills in his/her own unique and interesting manner on the other hand, some just choose to follow what is being told and not question at all. The issue here is when parents enter the zone of children where they force the children to question what they probably would have questioned if the parents were the students or expect their wards to play or interpret the game like how their neighbor's son does!
As a coach i encounter most of the parents asking me one common question- " When will my child start playing like her?" (Pointing at a kid who would be playing marginally better than their child)
Well educated and highly qualified parents most often forget that their child is special and born with different competencies which probably no other kid has! But alas, their kid is not like the kid standing beside in the school prayer assembly, how unfortunate...
Hats off to those parents who let their kids be the way they want to be and in the process retain the originality. And very unfortunate of those parents who expect their kids to be some other kid and spend their entire lives only telling them "look at her!" , "look at him!!" and directly or indirectly asking their child to be like the above him or her.
Comparison leaves a scar forever in the child's mind and drastically pulls the self confidence and morale of the child and end up spending the rest of their lives only to please their parents. This condition is mostly applicable to all the kids who are normal children, who largely outnumber the super talented kids.
--- Set personal and societal goals in a child's mind but not a goal which confines to only getting better grades than your cousin's son.
--- Inculcate habits which will enable your kid to lead a healthy life and not because your neighbor's daughter has the same habits.
--- Teach qualities which will help your child grow mentally but not qualities which will prove your child's classmate wrong.
Well the list can go on...
Let your child be normal and happy and do not expect them to be extraordinary and most importantly "carbon copies"
There is good old saying which says: "Do not limit your child to own learning, for the child was born at another time"
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